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Desh

Desh — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Veena, what I just finished reading is a real thought-provoking story and you definitely deserve kudos to bring such a mundane issue to limelight; I assume appearing on IB is in itself enough sublimer a light.

There’s no harm in acting thus, if your spouse is a real bully. Yeah, one should definitely pay back in the same coin.

veena

Veena — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Thanks, I really feel that when the girls are married in India they are just let to fight their own battles whereas only a small moral support can lead to a well adjusted married life

Asmita

Asmita — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0000

So your husband hits you and paying back in the same coin means persuading your parents to take you back??? I’m sorry Veena, I really admire your cousin for bearing it all, but I really cannot say that the trauma faced by her is in anyway the same thing as paying back, in any sense of the word.

Domestic violence is a major issue and just the fact that the family of the girl refused to even listen to her at first and their reluctance to take her in says a lot...

Not every husband is as repenting as your brother-in-law and majority of them just go back to their old ways after the wife comes back in...

I certainly think we need stronger laws to protect women from domestic abuse and the stigma regarding the issue certainly has to go...

Counciling and reconciliation are great, but preventive measures and intervention should certainly step in before the situation leads to an actual incident of the husbands daring to hit their wives.

Gagandeep

Gagandeep — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0000

well I believe instead of making mountain of a mole its always better to deal with a problem at a very personal level. bringing laws into the picture will do nothing more than further make the situation worse and complicated ,adding thereby to broken homes.

certainly there is a need for stringent laws to tackle with the problem of domestic violence, but how many of our(female)friends and cousins will not abuse the laws...once a law is made it become a tool in the hands of public, chances are thereby to abuse it, just as article 498A of IPC is abused.

veena

Veena — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Well I think it is high time the concept most of the females are brought up in this country to accept any problem with their in laws as their destiny is changed Many a suffering could be reduced if both the girl and the boy are treated at par by both sides.

Leena Komarraju

Leena Komarraju — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Its rather a sad plight of affairs that in our country domestic violence and dowry harassment are a part of many homes of India. Shamefully, a significant proportion of even the ‘erudite’ class is engaged in this. Many women are not as lucky as your cousin to get a husband who would be too ready to mend his ways with a simple change of attitude. I do strongly agree with people who say that stringent laws should be enforced to check this. What can you do if things are beyond the personal level of solving? I do feel every woman facing domestic violence should not see divorce as a solution, because the man on the other side will never learn. He will be too happy to get rid of her. I think she should get the social and legal support to save her marriage, eradicate unjust behavior and mend the ways of her spouse. The laws should be towards saving marriages and not breaking them.