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India :
Now single men who do not want burden of full time commitment of marriage but have raging paternal instincts are trying a novel method to satisfy the urge of becoming a father.
In Anand, the surrogate capital in Gujarat where Infertility specialist Dr. Naina Patel has helped several childless couple to taste the joy of parenthood through surrogate, has many single men lining up with their donated eggs and a surrogate mother to become a father.
Rafa, a Spanish teacher has just become a father(or should I say motherly father) of twins. He donated his eggs, got a woman to act as a surrogate mother and bingo he became a father without the hassles of a wife. Obviously it was not so easy for him because he had to prove his credentials financially as well as his supporting family to look after after the babies. He did not want to marry but wanted to become a father, so he opted for this. Now he is a happy unmarried father.
Another case is of an expat 28 year old Indian in USA. He met with an accident which made him paraplegic. Getting married for him was an extension of his sufferings because it would have been a pity marriage. But he wanted someone whom he could call his own, his own flesh and blood. So he also opted for surrogate fatherhood and was recently blessed with a boy. Now he has a purpose to live. There are other cases like this who are taking this step.
Surrogacy and fatherhood is great, it can fulfill all your fantasies with no strings attached. But does the old adage of a child needing both mother and father for proper development has changed now?
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Chintan
Jun 22 2009
Ambala,
India
It's a dangerous idea which shows that women are for feeding and looking after of the children. It's against the noble concept of motherhood.
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(Local Perspectives)
ROHAN D
498a.org
Jun 23 2009
Bangalore,
India
If a woman can become a mother, why can’t a father be a single father?
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(Local Perspectives)
Man is going against the nature. It will disrupt the whole social structure.
(Global Perspectives)
If a woman can become a mother, why can’t a father be a single father?
(Local Perspectives)
”does the old adage of a child needing both mother and father for proper development has changed now?”
The govt changed it. Marriage in India is not only risky for the husband but also for his entire family. Even 2 months old kid can be accused of dowry harrassment!!!
http://prassoon.instablogs.com/entry/two-month-old-accused-in-dowry-harassment-case/
Coupled with the fairly new Domestic Violence Act marriage is the BIGGEST blunder that an Indian man can do. Based on this Act even talking louder to your wife or calling name is an offense!!! Every day, about 20-30 husbands are loosing their own houses in Delhi.
India govt is working on commercialising surrogacy. For this, National Commission of Women and Women and Child Development ministry headed by Renuka Chaud ary has already submitted recommendations to law commission of India.
The govt changed it. Marriage in India is not only risky for the husband but also for his entire family. Even 2 months old kid can be accused of dowry harrassment!!!
http://prassoon.instablogs.com/entry/two-month-old-accused-in-dowry-harassment-case/
Coupled with the fairly new Domestic Violence Act marriage is the BIGGEST blunder that an Indian man can do. Based on this Act even talking louder to your wife or calling name is an offense!!! Every day, about 20-30 husbands are loosing their own houses in Delhi.
India govt is working on commercialising surrogacy. For this, National Commission of Women and Women and Child Development ministry headed by Renuka Chaud ary has already submitted recommendations to law commission of India.
(Global Perspectives)
Veena, BTW man cannot donate eggs ;)
Its women who donate eggs and men donate sperm. Then he needs to hire a womb to make it happen, and the one who rent her womb is the surrogate women. There is nothing against nature here, but one can say its against child rights. Apparently, in India most kids of working couples are getting raised in day cares and by maids. So a surrogate kid has nothing much to loose.
Its women who donate eggs and men donate sperm. Then he needs to hire a womb to make it happen, and the one who rent her womb is the surrogate women. There is nothing against nature here, but one can say its against child rights. Apparently, in India most kids of working couples are getting raised in day cares and by maids. So a surrogate kid has nothing much to loose.
(Global Perspectives)
Veena,
Something confuses me. Single men (man),lined up in an infertility clinic donating eggs(Sperms)for surrogate father!
Veena, there are semen banks with complete history of the donor of the semen including the genetic traits.
There are laws regarding the inheriting properties like movable and immovable or claims on any conginital defects if could happen due to artifical inseminisation.
If the corrective measures fail with the husband as to insufficient sperm count,or insufficient mobility of the spermatozoa to leap the fertile zone or total impotency of husband is confirmed,the artificial inseminisation may be considered with the consent of the husband.
The donor of the sperms does not come into picture while the artificial inseminisation occurs. Some clinics do not disclose the names and
address of the donors for legalities.
As far as my knowledge goes no spinster is willing to opt for artificial inseminisation. India being 85% dipped into religious acumen,perhaps the artficial inseminisation may be a sacrilege.
Something confuses me. Single men (man),lined up in an infertility clinic donating eggs(Sperms)for surrogate father!
Veena, there are semen banks with complete history of the donor of the semen including the genetic traits.
There are laws regarding the inheriting properties like movable and immovable or claims on any conginital defects if could happen due to artifical inseminisation.
If the corrective measures fail with the husband as to insufficient sperm count,or insufficient mobility of the spermatozoa to leap the fertile zone or total impotency of husband is confirmed,the artificial inseminisation may be considered with the consent of the husband.
The donor of the sperms does not come into picture while the artificial inseminisation occurs. Some clinics do not disclose the names and
address of the donors for legalities.
As far as my knowledge goes no spinster is willing to opt for artificial inseminisation. India being 85% dipped into religious acumen,perhaps the artficial inseminisation may be a sacrilege.
(Local Perspectives)
Shafee,
The Unmarried Fathers want someone whom they can call their own,having their own flesh and blood,so they are not opting for donated sperm.
There were reports coming in where some females are going in for surrogacy for monetary gains,a very miniscule percentage.
The Unmarried Fathers want someone whom they can call their own,having their own flesh and blood,so they are not opting for donated sperm.
There were reports coming in where some females are going in for surrogacy for monetary gains,a very miniscule percentage.
(Local Perspectives)
Its interesting but I do think about the child - who may want to know about his/her biological mother, and family history.
It does raise all sorts of ethical questions but if the child is wanted, loved and nurtured (which should be every childs birthright but sadly is not) then every body involved should be happy with the outcome.
It does raise all sorts of ethical questions but if the child is wanted, loved and nurtured (which should be every childs birthright but sadly is not) then every body involved should be happy with the outcome.
(Global Perspectives)
Lynn,
The comedy is that the mother wants child by some mechanical means beyond accepted conventions. The tragedy is the child does not know who is the real father if married woman goes for an artificial method.She actually dupes the child that her husband is the father.
In case of unwed woman, the child is fatherless or (artifically) orphaned. These are all the comedies of error.
Some of the advancement of science and noval inventions leads to complications and miseries although wonderful comforts are disseminated.
The comedy is that the mother wants child by some mechanical means beyond accepted conventions. The tragedy is the child does not know who is the real father if married woman goes for an artificial method.She actually dupes the child that her husband is the father.
In case of unwed woman, the child is fatherless or (artifically) orphaned. These are all the comedies of error.
Some of the advancement of science and noval inventions leads to complications and miseries although wonderful comforts are disseminated.
(Local Perspectives)
Shafee
That's why I said that it may disrupt the whole social structure. We can't go against the nature.
That's why I said that it may disrupt the whole social structure. We can't go against the nature.
(Global Perspectives)
Shafee
I know what you mean, I wonder what all these kids will think when they are adults.
They are not ”pets” but individual human beings who may one day question their rights - and expect answers.
I know what you mean, I wonder what all these kids will think when they are adults.
They are not ”pets” but individual human beings who may one day question their rights - and expect answers.
(Global Perspectives)
Veena,
Why do you say that writing is under severe duress.Like me, all writers do derive immense pleasure to see the write ups in print and electronic media.
I call you Veena,with great respect and due humane concern.It is so because you have written some thig interesting that persuaded me to quip.
It is you Veena,did it. Writing is an art. Some are born writer and some with practice. A writer reads great number of books and relate it in his/her writing.
Writing is learning things around the world. I hope you will agree with me.
I would like to see your more articles in the near future.
Why do you say that writing is under severe duress.Like me, all writers do derive immense pleasure to see the write ups in print and electronic media.
I call you Veena,with great respect and due humane concern.It is so because you have written some thig interesting that persuaded me to quip.
It is you Veena,did it. Writing is an art. Some are born writer and some with practice. A writer reads great number of books and relate it in his/her writing.
Writing is learning things around the world. I hope you will agree with me.
I would like to see your more articles in the near future.
(Local Perspectives)
Shafee,Thanks and by the way I love writng but not my dear Hubby and Son,so when they have to write they find it a great burden to be disposed off with least effort.
(Local Perspectives)
Gary,
You are absolutley correct. If you go against nature, nature knows how to go against you. See all the environmental topsy-turvies. They are all man made.
You are absolutley correct. If you go against nature, nature knows how to go against you. See all the environmental topsy-turvies. They are all man made.
(Local Perspectives)
Lynne,
Do you know most psychiatric clinic are dumped with love starved children grown into adolescents. They have all sorts of vices. The various inbuilt complexes
in the childhood,also grow gigantically as the age advances. It bursts in the teens. They become questionable social elements leaning to liquors and drug addiction.
If parents fail to rear the children as a flower similar to one that has been nurtured in the garden, their(children’s) future is a rudderless ship, sailing to every wind that blows to it.
Do you know most psychiatric clinic are dumped with love starved children grown into adolescents. They have all sorts of vices. The various inbuilt complexes
in the childhood,also grow gigantically as the age advances. It bursts in the teens. They become questionable social elements leaning to liquors and drug addiction.
If parents fail to rear the children as a flower similar to one that has been nurtured in the garden, their(children’s) future is a rudderless ship, sailing to every wind that blows to it.
(Local Perspectives)
Shafee
yes I think everyone knows there are millions of unwanted, unloved kids born everyday - who are used, abused, and neglected by both the parents and predators everywhere in this world.
It is truely one of the saddest facts of life on this planet, that we as humans beings think we are ”better” than the animals, I don’t think so.
We may have the intellect to produce medical marvels to enhance our lives although there some things that I question morally and ethically - but when it comes down to the basics of love, nurturing and protecting our young then I believe with out a doubt that all the animals leave us selfish humans as a species for dead.
yes I think everyone knows there are millions of unwanted, unloved kids born everyday - who are used, abused, and neglected by both the parents and predators everywhere in this world.
It is truely one of the saddest facts of life on this planet, that we as humans beings think we are ”better” than the animals, I don’t think so.
We may have the intellect to produce medical marvels to enhance our lives although there some things that I question morally and ethically - but when it comes down to the basics of love, nurturing and protecting our young then I believe with out a doubt that all the animals leave us selfish humans as a species for dead.
(Global Perspectives)
Lynn,
This world that we’re a livin’in
Is mighty hard to beat;
You get a thorn with every rose,
But ain’t the roses sweet?
-Thomas Fuller
This world that we’re a livin’in
Is mighty hard to beat;
You get a thorn with every rose,
But ain’t the roses sweet?
-Thomas Fuller
(Local Perspectives)
Shafee
funny you should say that - I am a florist by trade and have held many roses in my time as well as felt the sting from all those thorns, :-)
So I guess we can’t save the world but at least we can all try to improve it from our own little corner of the globe.
funny you should say that - I am a florist by trade and have held many roses in my time as well as felt the sting from all those thorns, :-)
So I guess we can’t save the world but at least we can all try to improve it from our own little corner of the globe.
(Global Perspectives)
Lynn,
Rohan
To suffice the debate, I would prefer the following:
1.The world is made up of beasts and human beings. Still some the human beings are in beastly behaviours. If all are angels,why police,court and justice and all?
2. There should be a single father. Multiple father cannot be there. If multiple fathers exist for a single lady, she herself cannot identify to which father was born which child!
Let this be an end to my argument. I bid an adieu.
Rohan
To suffice the debate, I would prefer the following:
1.The world is made up of beasts and human beings. Still some the human beings are in beastly behaviours. If all are angels,why police,court and justice and all?
2. There should be a single father. Multiple father cannot be there. If multiple fathers exist for a single lady, she herself cannot identify to which father was born which child!
Let this be an end to my argument. I bid an adieu.
(Local Perspectives)
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